The Long Time

Waking on Every Moment.
Worrying weather your child made it home.
It takes a long time to know
Nothing is ever certain or set in stone.
Comforting on a seconds notice
Judging the actions.
The long time comes but will go.


This was written by a friend of mine Victor years and years ago inspired by Roger. Visit him here

What Are You Sorry For?

The one thing I cannot get used to is people's reactions when they hear your child has Autism.  The most common I get is but he doesn't look like it. Still don't know what one with autism is supposed to look like, I've decided I'm going to start answering and you don't look like a idiot see how they like that.
The very close second comment is I'm sorry. What the heck are you sorry for. While yes he does struggle with some things this is not a death sentence. Given a magic pill to fix it, really I don't know what I would do and that's not an option so no since in going over that can of worms. Maybe it's because I have had worse options on the table.
This is the child who is not supposed to be here. Let me go back a little and explain, anything and everything that could go wrong in my pregnancy and delivery did. Long story short ended with emergency c-section me in icu and not having a clue what had happened.  Finally the next day a med student asked if I knew what happened when I said no he said to put it bluntly 5 more min and we would have lost him 10 min and you both were gone that's how close you guys came.
So when you say I'm sorry to someone first off your really not second you don't know where they have been.
Even with the struggles he faces.  I'm not sorry. There's nothing to be sorry for. He is a kid and deserves to be treated as one.

one step forward and 2 back

I FINALLY found an OT for Roger.  Insurance will pay yay (happy dance) and the wait list is less than 3 weeks.  Most of you know how amazing that is in itself. The other 3 lists we are on are over 6 months long.  While I finally get this worked out his speech theripist has informed me that she is switching clinics at the end of July and at that point we will be put back on the wait list. They don't know when a replacement will come in for her and what that persons caseload will look like so at the end of July we will be back at the end of an insanly long wait list.
I do believe the place that will be doing his OT does speech as well, I will find out and if so maybe move him there. I mean if I have to change therapist anyways.
Sometimes it just seems like once we get one thing worked out something else falls apart.

Computers

I have taken the kids computer away.  Not because they did anything wrong more because that's all they do. Am I setting myself up for meltdowns yeah I know I am, but not only the little ones but Roger needs to learn to entertain themselves another way. You can't always have a screen in front of you. While the little ones will go play outside or something Roger will read a book. So far day two and no meltdowns from Roger yet. Besides at some point this summer I am going to have to take it in and have it fixed which means it will be gone for at least a week. Motherboard is crap along with the hard drive oh and the keyboard is losing keys. It would almost be cheaper to buy a new one but i just don't have the money for that and Roger will need it by the time he goes back to school so maybe if I fix one part at a time we will be able to pull it off.

6th Grade Graduation

It has come. Roger is officially done with elementary school and on to middle.  I found it funny when they were giving the awards many of which the child must have homework done everyday and be prepared. As soon as the words must have anything all the time were said its well that wont be my kid. Hey were happy if he has his stuff 80% of the time. But do we care about silly awards that really no body cares if you had all your homework in 6th grade. I know I don't.

Happy Fathers Day!

Anything But Typical

 Anything but Typical                                 By: Nora Baskin

This is what I got from Roger on this book.

Main Characters:

Jason:  A autistic kid who writes books.

Story Line:

He writes stories and goes to a writing convention.  He has a hard time fitting in. He has a little brother, goes to his cousin’s house and gets in trouble. He has his own laptop. He liked the book and he would read it again.

This book is on our school districts summer reading list.

So let me help you out a bit I did not read it but here is a summary from Amazon.com

Product Description

Jason Blake is an autistic 12-year-old living in a neurotypical world. Most days it's just a matter of time before something goes wrong. But Jason finds a glimmer of understanding when he comes across PhoenixBird, who posts stories to the same online site as he does. Jason can be himself when he writes and he thinks that PhoneixBird-her name is Rebecca-could be his first real friend. But as desperate as Jason is to met her, he's terrified that if they do meet, Rebecca wil only see his autism and not who Jason really is. By acclaimed writer Nora Raleigh Baskin, this is the breathtaking depiction of an autistic boy's struggles-and a story for anyone who has ever worried about fitting in.

From School Library Journal

Grade 4–7—Baskin writes in the voice of a high-functioning boy who identifies himself as having numerous disorders, most with labels that appear as alphabet soup. In the third grade, after yet another battery of tests, Jason receives the diagnosis of autism. Now in sixth grade, he relates how he does not fit in, even though he tries to follow the instructions of his therapists and helpers. He labels the rest of his classmates and teachers as neurotypicals, or NTs for short. While humor resonates throughout the book, the pathos of Jason's situation is never far from readers' consciousness. If only he could act on what he knows he needs to do, his life would be so much easier. Jason also shows himself to be a deep thinker and an excellent writer. Through his stories and thinly veiled fictional characters, Baskin reveals not only the obstacles that Jason faces, but also his fierce determination to be himself at all costs. Jason is a believable and empathetic character in spite of his idiosyncrasies. Baskin also does a superb job of developing his parents and younger brother as real people with real problems, bravely traversing their lives with a differently abled child without a road map, but with a great deal of love.—Wendy Smith-D'Arezzo, Loyola College, Baltimore, MD
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