Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Autism and Empathy

One of the things I constantly hear is people with autism cannot feel empathy. Lets get this straight this is crap. Just because they show emotions differently does not mean they do not have them. Case in point. My youngest porkchop was 1200 miles away visiting his dad when there was a car accident. Roger did not know the details just that the car rolled but his brother was fine and was with his grandparents and we would be picking him up that Saturday.
For the next week every time we went to the store he wanted to buy his brother presents because he was in an accident and didn't get hurt. This was his way of showing he cared. So the whole theory that people with autism don't care is junk.  Some just show it differently. Roger didn't know how to show it so he wanted to buy him stuff finally he settled on a hot wheels car but then he was concerned that the car may remind his brother of the accident. After what felt like ages of talking to him and telling him the car was fine he finally deiced to get it for him and could not wait to give it to him. We were not in the hotel for more than a minute and he was getting the car out of the suitcase and giving it to him.

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Taking a Break

There is a lot and I mean A LOT of drama right now. None of which I am at liberty to speak of just yet. I will be back once we get things sorted out.

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Looking Back

I was looking back at some of my blog postings and now some of it I would change.  One of my first posts d-day first off I would change the name of that one it seems so dreadful and depressing. I associate d-day with a war and this is not a war. I had also said I thought I wanted to be wrong about believing he had autism but in reality is was such a relief to be right and know what was going on.  In all honesty it has been great for Roger the diagnosis helped him feel better about himself that he wasn't just some weird kid there was a reason for it.  The best day of the past year has been when he has said I have autism and thats not a bad thing just means I think differently.
I still could care less what causes it or for a cure I would not change my child meltdowns and all. The treatments we do get for him are not an attempt to rid him of autism but rather to help with his communication and executive functioning. Overall I still want him to be a kid. I don't want to spend a million hours chasing down crazy science and the result of my child spending his whole childhood in a doctors office.  Some of the best therapy has been just being in the real world. I am not a bad parent for wanting him to be a kid. He's not some science project for people to poke and prod at we had enough of that. We will go for the therapy that benefit him but the others we will skip.
Anyone else in this position should remember in Roger's words Autism is kinda cool, I don't want to be like everyone else.  Do what you know is right for your child don't just follow the hype (some of that stuff is extremely dangerous by the way). Support the organizations you believe in once again you don't have to follow the crowd. I'm open in as I learned about autism speaks I do not support them. I don't like the science, the politics, or the way their money is spent. But that is me I do not expect anyone to just go on what I say do your own homework check things out.

Monday, July 11, 2011

Shameless Plug

OK, OK I know shameless plug here but I actually got on babbles list (shocking I know) you can vote for No Guile here.  I don't expect to get into the top 25 but hey just to be on the list.

Friday, July 8, 2011


Ok so I haven't been around for bit. Really I got nothing. Been busy with kids and my school. One thing that has driven me nuts and I'm sure I have probably written about it before is all these stupid studies that show some correlation to autism. I mean really what next, I'm sure we could all get together and do a study that shows if you drive a ford your child will be more likely to have autism. Sadly people would believe us.
I want this truck! No other reason for this pic.
The craziest article I read this week was someones take on a study. They said that this study made them more fearful of vaccines.  read it here. Really a study that didn't even look at vaccines made you more fearful. sounds like fear mongering to me.
When are we going to stop posting all these studies as news. Untill there is concreat evidence stop. There are at least 5 a day if not more posted on facebook that all it is is correlation not fact.
When it comes down to it I don't care what causes autism. Can we take all this money that is being spent on studies that are not finding anything and maybe find ways to help those with autism.