This comes from a discussion with autism bloggers. Yes we are real people behind our pages. The group is made up of parents and autistics. The topic came up of do you sometimes just get sick of autism. Not the autism itself just that all attention seems to be on a diagnosis rather than a person.
Overall response yep. As I said before we are real people. We may write about about autism but part of real life is autism is not always center stage. Sometimes we don't want to talk about autism, sometimes we want to talk about the most recent game, a book we read, what we are doing at work, there is more to us than just being autistic or being a autism parent. Sometimes you have to step away from the autism and focus on life.
Then there is the whole title thing. Once you have a dx you become autistic or a autism parent. The person you were before the dx is still there but it seems like people can't see that person anymore. Everyone wants to over anaylaze what you do. There must be a reason why? Yes there is a reason because we like it. You become this walking information booth. Where conversations may have been about your recent trip before now they are about autism. Don't get me wrong we love that you want to ask questions and learn, but dose it have to be every conversation.
Overall what I am saying is step away from the autism dx and see the person. Ask them about the book they read? Ask how work is going? Find out about them as a person. We will never stop advocating and fighting for what we or our children need, but not everything is a fight. Yes autism is a integral part of my children but it is not all of them. Sometimes autism needs to be center stage, but not always. Live life, have fun, let your kids be kids. They may just surprise you. I think Brad Paisley's song says it best "yes I have a hard life but in someways everybody dose."